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He\u2019d never been there and had no plans to visit. I was literally living in Portland at the time, telling him what I was seeing firsthand, but that didn\u2019t matter to him. That was it for me. I miss it sometimes, but mostly I don\u2019t. Here\u2019s what I\u2019ve noticed since then: the heyday of social media feels like it\u2019s behind us. In my opinion, Facebook peaked in 2008. Back then, it was about connecting with friends, sharing actually interesting updates about our lives. Minimal ads. It felt genuine. Now? Wannabe influencers everywhere. More ads and brand accounts in your timeline than content from people you actually know. Bots running campaigns to get engagement through false things or distortions of reality. It\u2019s exhausting. But here\u2019s the thing: I\u2019m not saying abandon social media entirely. I\u2019m saying use it differently. How I Think About Social Media Now# I\u2019m not scrolling feeds endlessly anymore. No traps of getting lost in reels or stories. I use (https://buffer.com/) Buffer to schedule posts, which keeps me from even looking at a timeline. I check in with intention when I need to, then I\u2019m out. This one\u2019s harder than it sounds, but it makes a real difference in how much time you lose to these platforms. With that said, social media still works for connections. DMs are good. Having actual conversations in comments is good. Longer discussions where you\u2019re genuinely exchanging ideas? Even better. This is where I think the platforms still have value if you\u2019re intentional about it. I try to share things that might help someone else. Good articles I\u2019ve read. Things I\u2019m learning. Mistakes I\u2019ve made. If it could save one person some time or frustration, it\u2019s worth sharing. 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